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By: ARDA DINATA
Islamic teachings require the parents to educate their children. If not, according to Prof. Dr.
Bayhaqi Ak, not only with the threat of criminal punishment of sinners in the afterlife, but also threatened to not get moral and material rights of the child. What a miserable loss and the journey of life, if it actually happens to us. Naudzubillah. So this picture, must be absolutely anyone aware of the importance of a education for the children. And a clear element of our perseverance in order to empower the child is educated conduct to use ruqyah building the pillars of the establishment of a family sakinah order.
To realize this, seems to borrow a phrase from David McClelland, every family should have a virus N'Ach (short for Need for Achievement, need for achievement -), and capable of spreading to the entire family. And the most important of the existence of this virus is N'Ach should be coupled with the power of immunity good conscience. Namely through a series of Islamic education.
In another sense, this N'Ach virus was not the sole cause of man achievement. This virus is only one of its main elements. Separately N'Ach a good trait, but not necessarily motivate a person to carry out activities that benefit the community. If this is not followed by a good conscience had.
In every human being, is the potential presence of this virus has been N'Ach had since birth. Because no, man was created in the form of the best. The problem, is whether all human beings since the beginning has been trained to use / actualize the emergence of the virus?
Therefore, efforts to know whether or not the appearance of "mental virus" that can only be known in a sample of someone's mind. Namely whether the thought has to do with "doing something good" or "do something with a better way" than had ever done before. For example, more efficient, faster, with less power, with better results, and the like.
Such action should be before we evaluasikan against children, the first self-made to his parents. The reason, parents who have the virus and N'Ach a good conscience, then he will pass it to her children. Parents like this, was the personification of a moral achiever.
Type achiever's parents are very confident but not arrogant, and very friendly. In terms of developing self-discipline and skills, parents achiever build from within. Group of parents like this, able to work mempertanggung responsibility. Personal input is always trying to find for himself and watched other people's opinions. And he was able to capture the positive values that appear and he gave useful input, so that the impact of good influence to people around him (read: children).
In another language, parents can say this achiever of behavior and attitude will reflect itself as part of the problem solver; looking at something complex into simple; able to motivate; the obstacles into opportunities; something difficult, but possible; and recover from any failure .
Step Education
Preparation is something that is prepared from the beginning, after we determine something desire. Similarly, the desire to transmit the virus and build (potential) N'Ach to the child, then we first need the preparation of Islamic education in that direction.
The results of this education will achieve good results, according to Bayhaqi, is if the parent meets the conditions, such as duty to God, sincere and noble.
As for the steps that Islamic education should be made to maximize these goals, then they must be prepared from choosing a wife / husband, the time the ceremony, when the husband-wife "associate", when his wife pregnant / pregnancy, time after giving birth.
In doing mate choice, the Prophet Muhammed., Recommends that we choose a wife / husband who is religious and noble. It is intended that after establishing households, so they can nurture and build family lives and educate their children into a religious state and noble.
The next educational step is when to hold the ceremony. Ie before the final offer and qabul, the couple is reminded of the Islamic faith (read: with pronunciation again kalimah Creed). Connected later with the sermon of marriage and say ijab qabul.
Other educational process, is to perform the prayer at the time the couple will "hang out". And if we look at, it contains the contents of the prayer intention is not merely a request, but in it contains the meaning that makes the soul becomes calm and, more important is the hope of children who may be born from the "hang out" is far from the distractions of the devil.
As for education at the time pregnant (pregnancy) done (mainly) by the mother to try to improve service and affection between husband and wife. This is based on that baby in the womb is very responsive / sensitive to stimuli from outside (read: of happiness, kesediahan, peace of mind, etc..). Furthermore, after the child is born, then do the read / heard lafaz azan and iqomah. Then aqiqah slaughtering and gave a good name. Further education is for the provision of (educational) modeling of both parents in all aspects of life until the child becomes an adult and independent.
Finally, by applying these steps, God willing, will result in families that can propel the spread of the virus emerged and N'Ach and good conscience in family life. And ultimately the family will be both enlightened life in the world and in akherat later. Waallahu'alam .***
Arda Dinata Inspiration is the founder of the Qur'an and the Assembly Natural Reality (MIQRA) Indonesia, http://www.miqra.blogspot.com.
