Leadership Management in the Household

Leadership Management in the Household
By Arda Dinata
http://www.miqra.blogspot.com

"Each of you is leader and every leader will be asked for his leadership. And human leaders (faith), it is also a leader who will be asked for his leadership. And every man's top leaders kelaurganya; and will kepemimpinanya asked for. Each waiter was a leader in the care of his master's property, and will be asked for kepemimpinanya. Then each leader will be asked for his leadership. "(Narrated by Muslim).

BY Kurnia Istadi Irawati, the two most important years in human life is at the early age. And in those days gold was the babies spent more time at home with mother. Touch the quality of education provided at the age of the mother will determine their quality to adults later.

The issue is very diverse family. Although the husband as head of the family, but usually more everyday matters assigned or delegated decision to the wife. That means hundreds of smaller policies that women decide from day to day, is like small pieces of the puzzle that are complementary to each other, so that future arrangements will produce a beautiful picture of life and perfect. Thus, a small piece of the policy despite minor part in determining the future image of a family.

So do not underestimate the importance of household management as penyempurna effort in order to form a family order sakinah. Simply put, household management is defined as activities undertaken to get the job done through other people, but it can also mean managing a family member to perform activities in the household. Management process that includes action planning, organizing, driving and monitoring through the utilization of human resources and other sources.

Such processes, is clearly support in the management of the family. Because, with hours of work 24 hours a day, most people still think the profession beyond the household manager duties of a wife. In fact, the required skills are not playing games. According to Isaac solih, a manager must have leadership qualities, such as: charismatic, powerful and able to carry and lead subordinates, honest, terpecaya, wise, brave, introspective, and able to overcome adversity, to be fair, simple, full of devotion to the task, patient and generous.

The existence of the nature of leadership at the head of the family or a housewife like that, so support the success of household management to happiness and prosperity in daily life.

Family Leadership

In a complete family, the supreme leader is the husband (the term is called the management of top manager). Then the two leaders was the wife who can be called a middle manager or a manager as well as lower. And general application to the division of tasks is sufficient. Husband as head of the family (who led his wife) and wife as homemaker.

The role of leadership in fostering households occupying a strategic place and determine whether the family can achieve prosperity. Because of, in this exemplary conduct required of parents. That is, attitudes and actions of a head of household or housewife will have a big impact family members.

Here are some pointers for every household leaders contained in the teachings of Islam. Therefore, according to Isaac Solih, I hope the leaders of bad character (read: the nature and character of liberal dictator-Pen) can improve the understanding, experiencing and trying to practice the instructions below.

First, in building a prosperous family, a family member is obliged to maintain themselves in the attitudes and behavior of everyday life, so that the realization of a harmonious life. Especially for the head or the mother's family and household must maintain themselves and keep all the members of his family. (read: QS. At-Tahrim [66]: 6).

Second, every head of household or housewives must mempertanggung accountable leadership in the world and in akherat later. The Prophet said: "Each of you is leader and every leader will be asked for his leadership. And human leaders (faith), it is also a leader who will be asked for his leadership. And every man's top leaders kelaurganya; and will be asked for kepemimpinanya. Each waiter was a leader in the care of his master's property, and will be asked for kepemimpinanya. Then each leader will be asked for his leadership. "(Narrated by Muslim).

Third, every leader of the family should be gentle to all subordinates. If there are errors forgive them even ask for forgiveness for him. In matters concerning the interests of families, both in the planning, organizing, mobilization and supervision, should like to deliberation. (read: QS. Ali Imran [3]: 159).

Fourth, the relationship between the lead and led in the family, should be fostered ties of affection besides other material factors. Each other should be patient in the pursuit of happiness together. (read: QS. At-Tauba [9]: 128).

Fifth, in the family should be created there and pray for each other mencitai between leaders and led. Hindarkanlah hate each other and curse each other. According to the Prophet, the best among you are the leader you love and who loves you, that ye ask for him and for you Barkah.

Sixth, a husband should be fair to his wife. Similarly, as a parent to his children and other family members. Hatred towards members should be avoided. If there are attitudes and behavior that is not good, should be corrected with patience, so that attitudes and behavior are lost with self-education of family members, not even being unjust. (Surat Al-Maidah [5]: 8).

Finally, expected pemimpim role in household management process will bring about happiness and prosperity in the family. Amen. Wallahu'alam .***

Author Founder Inspiration Assembly Qur'an and Reality of Nature (MIQRA) Indonesia. http://www.miqra.blogspot.com

Berpkir and Acting For Tomorrow

 

Berpkir and Acting For Tomorrow
By Arda Dinata
http://www.miqra.blogspot.com

If you'd want success, you can have it. Your future can be brighter than everything you want. Because the way you think reflects the way you act. And the way you act determines how the future will lay in front of you.  (Howard Vernon).

On a day Bahlul was walking on a street in the city of Basra. Suddenly, he saw the children were playing with fruit pecan and nutmeg. However, there is a kid who just watched his friends, crying. Bahlul walked over and said to myself, "This child is sad because it does not have toys like that owned by the children of others." Bahlul then said to him, "Son, why are you crying? Would I buy fruit pecan and nutmeg, so you can play with your friends? "

The boy looked Bahlul, then answered: "O people who are less intelligent, we are created not to play."

"Then why are we created?" Bahlul said.

The little boy replied, "To study and worship."

Bahlul asked, "Where did you get that answer? May God bless you. "

He replied, "From the word of God in verse. Al-Mu'minun: 116, Do you suppose that We created you to play games and that ye will not be returned to Us? "

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Bahlul and the story of a boy, giving lessons to anyone. If man is created to study and worship. So it is with family life. We would simply have to build it on the basis of the corridor study and worship God.

Yes, if every child needs to play in his life. But, of course play a containing and directing the child to develop learning activities to worship Allah. Moreover, when this all around us so many facilities spread wide and playing information offered to the children. Sometimes if the parents are not careful, the game was not un-Islamic and can damage the faith of our children.

It was here, perhaps the need for participation and the ability of policy patterns of parents in choosing a friend to play his children. And in fact, the essence of learning is to think and act. Is not, behavior done by each man, solely initiated from an intention and mindset in the hearts and reason. For that, each parent is required to sense the intention and her children have organized and promoted well to bear acts that can be packed and savior in facing their future.

So, think and act clearly will be a key to the success of what we want, including the formation of sakinah family. In this case, Vernon Howard revealed, if you'd want success, you can have it. Your future can be brighter than everything you want. Because the way you think reflects the way you act. And the way you act determines how the future will lay in front of you.

For that, get up every moment of thinking and actions of our children according to Islamic ethics and behavior. Because according to John Kehoe, through repetition, the mind becomes focused and directed as well as its ability to doubling every time. The more often repeated, the more power and accumulated power and getting ready to be realized.

Finally, there is no other way to meet the next day, but every member of the Muslim families have to really realize that in this life, we must consider the provision, any provision that has been prepared and done to the lives of tomorrow. He said, ".... And let every soul consider what he has done for the next day (the hereafter), ...." (Surat al-Hashr: 18). And Allaah knows best .***

Author Founder Inspiration Assembly Qur'an and Reality of Nature (MIQRA) Indonesia. http://www.miqra.blogspot.com

Playing with Daddy

 

Playing with Daddy
By Arda Dinata
http://www.miqra.blogspot.com

"Often people try to live life in reverse; they try to have more goods, more money, in order to do things that they want more, so they are more happy. Actually, the correct way is the opposite. You first have to be real yourself, then do what you need to do, in order to have more things that you want. " (Margaret Young).

That afternoon, the weather was so bright. Mr. Dennis, as usual after the Asr prayer, just got home from work. When I got home, Mr. Dennis said good-bye and opened the door of the house. There, found her daughter, Alifia (5 th), who was waiting and greeted with enthusiasm over his father's presence. This child, as if his father does not care conditions. Let the condition of his father's tired, tired, and need a break. Just in his mind there is only one word, that is "playing with my father". In his mind, playing with dad is the most fun thing.

In that situation, usually the liver Dennis pack will yield to obey her son. And Mr. Dennis amuse himself in the heart by saying, "Is not I as a parent should be able to position his mind with the mind of the child. Anyway we as parents should be able to formulate a sense of weary, wise, emotional children, educational, and entertainment into a form of charity sincerity, "said her heart.

Finally, Mr. Dennis was created together with his son. Both play a bike ride around the house. Gone was "feeling tired" Mr. Dennis, changing matchless joy, neither he nor his son. And as usual, when play was Mr. Dennis did not forget to slip tarbiyah of life to his son.

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Entertainment is an additional requirement - that contributed enough in the development of a child -. This entertainment activities, will form the mind and physical refreshment. Is the saturation of the drug from one's life routine. Good for the husband, wife, or children.

In a corridor like that, usually emotional parents become melted. Parents of a child wishes to get entertainment. What entertainment? As happened in Mr. Dennis, was the surprise. The kids just want to ride a bike. By riding a bike around the neighborhood RT, the boy's face looked so happy. So did the other families, the kids really do not require a lot about the type of entertainment. But, he wanted to play with the ability of the parents.

You could say that Dennis pack step, is something that became a personal icon wise father. Because according to Margaret Young, often people try to live life in reverse; they try to have more goods, more money, in order to do things that they want more, so they are happier. Actually, the correct way is the opposite. You first have to be real yourself, then do what you need to do, in order to have more things that you want.

Riding a bike, so modest. No need to cost a lot and everyone older relative can do it. But, it's simple, just Subanallah benefits. Among them, how we can teach good gratitude, respect others, the activity of Practice in the world, and others. Tarbiyah it, would still be within the reach of mind and language of his age.

One of the comforting impression of a child on a bicycle that is the process of educating children to be grateful for favors. Actualization of gratitude that is simply delicious, we can cite for example bagimana man who was given a perfect body members compared to other living creatures; creation of animals, plants; the sun, stars, sky, clouds, etc.. Or a non-material such delicious and healthy pleasure of leisure, so that we can play.

Pokonya, providing additional needs for family entertainment. Especially in children is more important than others. The Prophet said, "Providing an additional one to his family more important than the additional provision to others, such as extra person than someone prays berjama'ah own prayers." (Narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah Abu). And Allaah knows best .***

Author Founder Inspiration Assembly Qur'an and Reality of Nature (MIQRA) Indonesia. http://www.miqra.blogspot.com

Overlooked Learning Style - Does Your Child Like to Touch Everything?

 

Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic…


…the three biggies we were taught in our education classes and in numerous teacher conferences - these are the ways children learn.

Funny, I never fit into any of those categories.

Then researchers added in the “tactile connection”. Great! Now we have a category while feels like home to me.

Unfortunately, tactile learning is often squashed in with kinesthetic, as it involves touching - which is movement in a sense. But tactile learning is actually very different.

With a true tactile learner, there is something about the actual feel of an item that connects the brain’s circuits with the information to be learned.

We sometimes want children to sit still and listen and quit all movement while they’re reading, watching, or attending to a lecture or sermon. Tactile folks actually learn better if they can be fiddling with some squishy toy, piece of soft fabric, etc. That touch literally heightens the learning process for them and makes things “click”.

I am highly tactile. When I’m in a store, my hands are on unusually textured items constantly. I can be reading about a historical moment, and then touch something symbolic of that moment, and the whole essence of the learning comes alive for me. In that moment of touch, I “get it”.

Particular items I enjoy feeling of while I’m learning are soft blankets, chenille socks, squishy gel toys. But if you can use something symbolic of the learning activity, it’s even more powerful.
For instance, if you’re studying history, go to the cemetery and look for old stones, dating back to the 1700s. Telling the stories of the founding fathers of your town while tracing the faded names and dates can connect children to the reality of the past. These were real people, who really made some sort of difference in the world. What was it? What difference will I make?

When you study bees, capture a specimen, freeze it and touch the wings and body. If that freaks your child out, then buy some honeycomb - anything related to the subject that can be touched. (By. Lisa)

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